(Junaid Nabi, MD, MPH is a physician-scientist, nonprofit executive, and medical journalist. He holds a master’s degree in public health in the Department of Global Health and Population at Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health, where he was also a writing fellow in the Voices in Leadership program. He is passionate about designing innovative solutions for problems that impede access to high-quality care. This article, used with permission of the author, appeared online at statnews.com.)
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When I started medical school, I fully expected to learn how the nervous system works, why heart attacks happen and what to do to stop them, and how the immune system sometimes turns against the body and causes autoimmune diseases. One of the things I needed to learn, but didn’t, was how to talk with people about death and dying.
To fill that gap, I enrolled in a course at Harvard Medical School on communication strategies during end-of-life (EOL) care. It was designed to help budding physicians understand how spirituality, EOL care, and medicine interact. What I learned surprised me.
I found out that I wasn’t alone in feeling that I was ill-prepared for having effective end-of-life conversations. Physicians in general tend to be particularly limited in their ability to discuss issues such as how long patients will survive, what dying is like, or whether spirituality plays a role in their patients’ last moments.
At first glance, physicians’ poor understanding of death and the process of dying is baffling, since they are supposed to be custodians of health across the lifespan. Look deeper, though, and it may reflect less the attitudes of physicians themselves and more the system that nurtures them. After all, we train vigorously on how to delay the onset of death, and are judged on how well we do that, but many of us get little training on how to confront the end of life.
At one of the seminars that are part of the course, a young man was asked about how he felt during the final days of his mother’s struggle with cancer. “Pain is not suffering if it has a meaning; if it doesn’t, pain and suffering are the same thing,” he said.
That juxtaposition of pain and suffering struck me as an important reminder of the vital role physician communication plays from a patient’s point of view. I realized that a transparent communication strategy can ease suffering and make pain more bearable.
In the process of my coursework, I also realized that significant communication barriers exist between physicians and patients to discussing end-of-life care. When physicians aren’t trained about how to approach patients and their families regarding EOL decisions, it’s difficult, if not impossible, to provide the care they want and need.
In one survey, nearly half of the medical students and residents reported being underprepared to address patient concerns and fears at the end of life. About the same percentage said that “dying patients were not considered good teaching cases.” In other words, patients on palliative care with no need of further interventions were seen as offering little in the way of imparting clinical knowledge — even though they might have been wonderful cases for learning more about death and dying.
It’s still unclear whether such limitations arise from personal difficulty talking about this sensitive topic, an inadequate medical curriculum, or a lack of training during residency on how to communicate with terminally ill patients.
When a robust rapport between patient and physician is lacking, or when a physician hasn’t taken enough time to lay out all the options, hospitals tend to follow the “standard” protocol: Patients — often at the insistence of family members — are connected to several intravenous lines and an intubation tube, or put on life-support machines, all because the patient or the family never had a clear conversation with the medical team about the severity of the disease and its progression.
That’s not how physicians prefer to die. In a famous essay, an experienced physician wrote that most doctors would prefer to die at home, with less aggressive care than most people receive at the ends of their lives. They understand that such efforts are often futile and take away from the precious time that could be spent in the company of family and friends.
Intensive management of patients with poor prognosis can result in severe emotional damage to patients and their family members. They also have significant policy implications: On average, 25 percent of Medicare payments go to patients in the last year of life, with one-third of that spent in the last month, often on clinical services with negligible benefits.
Physicians certainly share some of the blame for these gaps in communication. But we need to be aware of the role healthcare systems play in shaping EOL interactions. Over-treatment is often encouraged, and with little guidance or feedback on how to navigate end-of-life care, physicians can feel vulnerable to malpractice lawsuits. Due to ever-changing regulations, most interns, residents, and attending physicians are forced to spend more and more time typing into their patients’ electronic health records and less time sitting with their patients, talking with them, and understanding what they want and need at the end.
The issue of resource allocation may also play a role. Medical centers often suffer from a shortage of physicians, and struggle to balance comprehensive teaching with quality patient care.
One way of addressing these deficiencies is to incorporate into the medical school curriculum required courses in which students are provided space and time to reflect upon the limitations they face when engaging with patients with terminal diseases. Some schools have already started this process, albeit as elective courses. Senior physicians also need to play more active roles as mentors, guiding younger doctors on how to approach these complicated situations.
In a book written as he was dying from lung cancer, Dr. Paul Kalanithi said: “Doctors invade the body in every way imaginable. They see people at their most vulnerable, their most sacred, their most private.”
Physicians have a responsibility to initiate and maintain an open channel of communication with each patient, understand and address the values that he or she holds dear, and talk frankly about the prognosis of his or her disease. If they lack the skills to talk openly about dying and death, one of the most sacred and private transitions, they do their patients a disservice and possibly prevent them from receiving the best possible end-of-life care.
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As an end-of-life doula working closely with families navigating serious illness, I see the consequences of these communication gaps every day. This piece articulates so clearly how systemic training limitations—not lack of compassion—often shape these moments. I’ve long believed that medical schools need to more intentionally incorporate education around death and dying, so physicians feel better prepared to relate to patients and families during this sacred transition. When honest conversations are delayed or avoided, suffering increases for everyone involved. Thank you for naming this so thoughtfully.
The Academy of Aid in Dying at https://www.aadm.org/#:~:text=View%20Our%20Courses%20and%20Information,participate%20in%20aid%20in%20dying provides training for doctors on the best clinical practices for expert, attentive care of patients considering or completing medical aid in dying.
I experienced a similar feeling as this post speaks to as I listened this morning to – “Embedding Care in the ED” episode of GeriPal podcast – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1no6jLPEck – that speaks to what could be added to the medical conversations and encounters to enrich patient care. And I am seeing a related experience with a friend who – in my mind – did not get the proper discharge transition conversation post surgery. “The Quiet Importance of Patient Advocacy When Healing Feels Incomplete” article I saw referenced “Advocacy gives patients and families permission to slow down, ask questions, and seek the resources necessary to regain strength and confidence. It reminds individuals that they are allowed to speak up if something does not feel right or if they need additional support to feel safe moving forward.” No more important time than as one approaches EOL to feel safe, seen, and heard. Being gentle but forthright with doctors – delivering direct, honest, and clear messages with kindness, compassion, and humility. Maybe they will return the same in kind. A gal can dream.