My Husband Was Dying. I Was Being Ignored.
These stories are not for everyone, but they are topics that the author believes shouldn't remain in the silence. (Continue reading ...)
Quality Of Life At The End Of Life
The lawsuit does not attack the right of patients to access medical aid in dying, which is the heart of the bill. Rather, it challenges provisions of the law that require providers to inform patients of the availability of medical aid in dying, and to refer those patients to a willing provider if the patient’s primary provider is unable or is unwilling for any reason. (Continue reading ...)
What Is A Good Death? How To Die Well.
Decisions are often made unilaterally without necessarily considering what the one dying wants or needs. A respectful death involves truly listening to the dying and being open and honest with them and the family. (Continue reading ...)
Whose Death Is It, Anyway?
Unconscious, Michael lingered for hours. His waiting children had no one to call for advice, but Michael had left instructions for this eventuality. Sobbing, his son Bill lovingly carried out his father’s wishes. (Continue reading ...)
Times to Have “The Conversation”
“The rest is up to you,” he finally said, ending the conversation for good. He didn’t have any more guidance, and certainly no more patience to talk about it. I was surprised. To me, it felt slightly irresponsible to leave all these decisions to other people. (Continue reading ...)
What Is A “Dignified” Death?
There are so many ways do die with dignity – we can’t let the word “dignity” be hijacked to the service of just one way of dying. (Continue reading ...)
Sharing VSED Resources In My Community
VSED might not be for everyone, but it is the only chance for some to experience an end to unbearable suffering. Done with careful preparation, medical support, and compassionate caregiving, VSED offers a natural end to life. (Continue reading ...)
Growing Towards VSED
In 2019, three community women asked to meet with me about a compelling community education concern. The spouses of these women had all struggled to use the VSED end-of-life option because our county’s only hospital, and associated hospice program, had religious affiliations and, therefore, was unable to support VSED. (Continue reading ...)
Jean Had Both Alzheimer’s Disease and Lewy Body Dementia … And a GOOD DEATH
After he died, Jean and her sister both looked at one other and said, “That’s how I’m going to die.” (Continue reading ...)
A Bad Death: The Importance of Truth-Telling at End-of-Life
“Death would not be called bad, O people, if one knew how to truly die.”
— Nanak (Continue reading ...)