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Deciding when suicide is a rational choice

While there is disagreement about whether suicide can be a rational choice, in this post I put those disagreements aside in order to address the ways that the Final Exit Network (FEN) protects the right of individuals to make informed and rational choices about the end of their lives.  From my perspective as a Coordinator (and trained Associate Guide), FEN reduces the chance that a person with a mental disorder or lacking mental capacity will be able to learn from FEN how to take their own life.  Usually, when a person who is mentally ill or incompetent does so, it is considered an irrational act.  Put another way, I want to discuss how I believe FEN works to make hastening one’s own death a rational endeavor.

FEN’s guiding principle sets the stage for its education and training program on hastening death:

We hold that mentally competent adults who suffer from a terminal illness, from intractable physical pain, or from a constellation of chronic or progressive physical  disabilities, or who face an impending loss of autonomy and selfhood through dementia, have a basic human right to choose to end their lives when they judge their quality of life to be unacceptable.

FEN provides speakers to many groups to discuss the services we offer.  In addition, the FEN Newsletter, which contains articles touching on many aspects of the right to die (RTD), is published quarterly.  This blog publishes posts usually once a week, with breaks for holiday periods and vacation.  Beyond those public presentations about the services FEN offers and the issues we address, are direct contacts by individuals and/or their families to ask for FEN’s education and training services aimed at helping qualified individuals peacefully achieve their wishes for a hastened death in the face of inevitable or actual suffering that they do not want to endure.

Most of these contacts come through calls to FEN’s toll-free phone number (866- 654-9156) and taken by an answering service, or made via a web-based contact form at <finalexitnetworkcontact@gmail.com>.  All such inquiries are funneled to the volunteer Coordinator responsible for responding to requests for assistance or information.  Each Coordinator is responsible for one or more states.  We try to respond to all contacts within 24 hours.

From the first time a Coordinator talks with an individual, we listen for signs of depression or irrational thinking.  It may be the sound of the person’s voice or what they say that gives clues about their mental state.  Most Coordinators are not psychologists or clinical social workers with training in suicide prevention, but all are compassionate people, who listen carefully to what the person says and make an initial determination about whether this person makes sense about what they are saying and whether they sound depressed beyond anything that may be seen as normal for someone dying or preparing to do so.

These initial clues about depression may be less significant for determining mental health than the medical records that are provided to FEN as part of the application process.  Often, these documents record concerns about mental status from clinicians that the person has seen, sometimes over many years before contact with FEN.  Medical records are usually from primary care doctors and specialists.  In addition, the applicant writes a letter to FEN, explaining in their own words why they seek to be educated and trained in FEN’s preferred method for hastening death–the use of inert gas.  It is preferred because it is peaceful, effective, and readily available.

The next step in the process is for another FEN volunteer to conduct a lengthy, structured telephone interview with the applicant.  The range and depth of questions discussed often suggest whether the person may be suicidal, rather than rationally preparing for dying.

The final step in the application process is presentation of all of the gathered information to FEN’s Medical Evaluation Committee, which is made up of three physicians, who volunteer their time and expertise to FEN.  The three-person committees rotate among several physicians.  They determine whether the applicant meets several “General Criteria,” as well as four “Specific Criteria.”

The General Criteria alone make it unlikely that someone who is suicidal will make it through FEN’s screening process.  Those criteria, paraphrased, include–

  existing or reasonably anticipated unbearable suffering or an unacceptable, intolerable quality of life with no reasonable hope of improvement

  receiving appropriate medical and/or psychological advice and being aware of treatment options (though applicants may refuse treatment unacceptable to them)

  being mentally competent

  willingness to inform close family members and intimate associates of intention to hasten death

  submission of a signed and dated personal statement that describes how the applicant’s medical condition meaningfully reduces or will reduce the applicant’s quality of life, with examples of current mental or physical decline; the applicant’s values as they pertain to end-of-life choices; and what the applicant wants from FEN.

The above information, when combined with one or more other specific conditions–serious physical disease; chronic, severe, somatic pain; dementia; or a constellation of irreversible medical conditions–usually means that the applicant satisfies FEN’s criteria to be accepted for education and training about the use of inert gas to hasten death.

That education and training is provided by a volunteer Senior Exit Guide and a volunteer Associate Guide on a schedule agreed to by the applicant and the guides.  The guides meet the approved applicants in their residence and continue to assess the mental status of the accepted applicant during the education and training process.  It is important to understand that guides never physically assist or encourage a person to hasten their death.

Sometimes, an applicant wants education about voluntarily stopping eating and drinking (VSED).  This information can be provided by FEN volunteers or by referral to other appropriate resources.

No one with FEN explains the inert gas process in full detail to someone not approved as an applicant.  Often callers ask for detailed information about the process–information that we refuse to supply.  Some of these people have researched using inert gas to hasten death and are trying to get additional information from FEN so that they can end their own lives without being screened by FEN.  

By assuring that a person satisfies the criteria to be accepted as an applicant, FEN guards against providing information on hastening death to someone who is mentally incompetent or mentally ill.  It is FEN’s position that such people cannot make fully-informed, rational decisions about self-deliverance.  In addition, FEN believes that it is ethical to provide its education and training only to people who have been thoroughly evaluated.

While this process usually takes three to four weeks, FEN sees the time it takes to go through its process as necessary to operate as a responsible organization. 

Comments about this process are welcome, including communications from other volunteers to provide additional or clarifying information or opinions.

Author Lamar Hankins

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  • Patricia says:

    “the range and depth of questions discussed often suggest whether the person may be suicidal, rather than rationally preparing for dying” … Your topic was “rational suicide”. Society too often is about drawing lines. As an ordinary human, I cannot define what is rational suicide VS irrational. It’s always obvious when a person has terminal bodily illness. While a depressed person may sound irrational to an untrained ear, that individual is suffering and to what extent it will continue indefinitely I do not know. Psychiatry is irrational when there is no pathology. While FEN must stay strong and stay within particularly boundaries that all must respect, we can’t make “suicide” a dirty word.

  • James Park says:

    This is a good description of the process
    by which FEN separates-out suicidal individuals.

    Perhaps (at least for internal communications)
    it would be useful to know how many people
    (and what percentage)
    drop out at each stage of the process.

    For example, what percentage of first calls
    ultimately are rejected
    because they come from people
    who do not qualify for help in dying?

  • Carol Ballou says:

    Thank you, Lamar, for this description of the FEN application and review process. The Medical Evaluation Committee reviews each application to determine whether “Specific Criteria” are met. The Senior Guide makes the determination about whether the application fulfills “General Criteria”; the MEC may raise related issues and concerns.

  • Mitch Wein says:

    I tried with FEN TWICE. They turned me down. Their recommended “method” is freely available on the internet using google. The big problem is opening a valve on a gas tank. I can barely open a pickle jar. They just collect money for useless advice. [FEN CHARGES NOTHING FOR ITS TRAINING AND EDUCATION SERVICES. EVEN MEMBERSHIP IN FEN IS NOT REQUIRED – Editor] Plus, all the folks trying are very sick. Their attempt is once and, if it fails, they just suffer more embarrassment. Remember every “accepted” candidate is a novice. Only one chance is given to try and their suffering may also impair their ability to do anything dangerous. [NOTHING ABOUT THE USE OF INERT GAS TO HASTEN ONE’S DEATH AS FEN TEACHES ABOUT IT IS DANGEROUS. I DON’T UNDERSTAND THE “ONE CHANCE” COMMENT. IT HAS NO RELATION TO THE PROCESS FEN TEACHES. – Editor]

    So far I’ve tried FEN, Compassion & Choices, plus in Switzerland Dignitas and LifeCircle. So far I’ve only paid money without any actions being taken to enable my exit. Thus, I’ve learned to live with intolerable pain caused by assaults on my feet by two doctors. So far the government enforcement agencies have done NOTHING. I’ve lasted FIVE YEARS like this and suspect most Americans have the same problem. Most of those applying in Switzerland must wait from 3 to 6 months for the big day. By that time they are too sick to travel to Switzerland and just forfeit most of what they paid. All these organizations are really fund raising groups making big bucks to pay executives, attorneys and doctors.

    The Opiate crisis points up the problem. Many are killing themselves with the opiates given for pain.

    Maybe FEN should form a new company concentrating on how folks with intolerable pain and impairment can learn to LIVE with their suffering as long as possible which is what I am doing now. Then they could earn their revenue. [FEN IS A NON-PROFIT ORGANIZATION, NOT A COMPANY, AND DOES NOT RAISE REVENUE TO DO ANYTHING BUT SUPPORT THE RIGHT TO DIE ON OUR OWN TERMS, NOT TO DO FRIVOLOUS RESEARCH. – Editor] If they need advice on now to live like this, I’d be willing to help form techniques and policies. I use distractions like internet chatting and keeping ultra busy every day in spite of being forced to bed when spasms, breathing and pain get out of control. I intend to live that way now until my breathing finally stops which has already almost happened in the past several times but not enough to kill me.

    Only Belgium has good exit laws where anyone can get a doctor’s help for an Exit even if they have mental illness which can just as much suffering as physical illness. Their only requirement is one must have a long term relationship with a Belgian physician who is then legally allowed the patient to exit for any reason including mental illness. They even allow minors down to age 13 to exit there for any reason.

  • Nicole Sharpe says:

    We might want to make a better distinction between the clinical depressive state of a mental illness (which may resolve with medication or revert to mania) vs. the existential despair over losing any decent quality of life without hope of future improvement. Depression in the latter case would seem to me to be a perfectly rational response to one’s situation. Expecting cheerfulness is…well…irrational on our part.

    Even so, • “existing or reasonably anticipated unbearable suffering or an unacceptable, intolerable quality of life with no reasonable hope of improvement” can certainly apply to persons who are suffering from a mental illness AND can easily meet the rest of FEN’s criteria. Many people with a medical diagnosis of mental illness are nonetheless competent and compliant, just don’t want to live that way any longer.

    • Diane Barry says:

      I have to disagree with Mitch because my relationship and experience with FEN has been nothing but positive. I have been a member for several years all due to being unfortunate enough to have head and neck squamous cell carcinoma. I know the behavior of this cancer and have recently had it spread to my lymph nodes. It can be slow going for a very long time and once it starts on a downhill slide, it goes fast. The decline is painful, debilitating, and close to the end, making you dysfunctional as a human being. It is a awful death, which my doctors confirmed, and once that rapid decline starts, I want to know that I can bypass the suffering with FEN and the method of deliverance.
      All these years, everyone I spoke to there has been understanding, compassionate, and supportive. They are only a phone call away at any time. And this is what gives me the peace I so need at this time on the days when this disease gets the best of me.

      • Mitch Wein says:

        Diane,

        My problem is that I was the victim of two doctor assaults on my feet. I have no natural terminal illness. When I die, an autopsy will be performed and my death may be ruled a homicide. All end of life organizations tend to avoid helping that kind of victim to die since, if they helped a victim of assault die, they could be held complicit in a homicide. Even in the 10 US States with Medical Aid In Dying it would be risky for any doctor to help someone dying from homicide to exit life.

        You have a natural terminal illness and no organization helping you would be involved in becoming complicit in a homicide.

        I believe FEN has already had legal problems in one state for helping someone die when they just had pain and no terminal illness. I don’t blame them for staying away from my case and refusing me twice. One Swiss doctor I had contacted for help in dying was already convicted by a Swiss court of homicide last July, 2019, and is now out on probation. She had to refuse me as well and I don’t blame her. She told me, if I do come to Switzerland for a Swiss doctor to help me, I should hide what happened to me and just attribute it to age and not tell any other doctors, especially their psychiatrist, since no one would believe it and if they did believe it, they could be prosecuted as well for being complicit in a homicide.

        My choices now are to live with my problem and die from it or use my Living Will and Advanced Directives to go by Voluntary Stopping Eating and Drinking (VSED). That is a terrible way to go over 2 to 3 weeks of 24/7 suffering. Plus, if I did go that way, the autopsy would not establish my case as homicide and would allow the two criminal doctors to escape punishment. Thus, I will try to last as long as possible and endure the suffering to be able to die from homicide. Over time one gets used to pain and suffering since it is not the same 24/7. It has its ups and downs and I live for most of the time when it is not serious.

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